Thank you for your kind comments on my interpretation of Dwarvish culture, Fantasia.
their point of view about women is so different, to an outsider, it looks that they are hidden and not respected, but you can see that they are equal to males and treated with great respect, very different of what happens in human society
I'm glad this is working for you, because figuring it out has been a real challenge. There is a clear correlation in human societies between women's economic contributions and their status, and since Dwarves are such economic creatures . . . .
no favors allowed
Well, what do people often say when someone does them a favor? "I owe you." Debt can be oppressive, and since Dwarves were designed to resist domination, my view is that they have an abhorrence of debt.
And thanks to Elrûn as well:
you remind us of the utter poverty the men are living in which is as amazing to me as to any dwarf
I expected many readers would see it that way. But since I will shortly head into the Wild to live out of a canoe for a week, I also appreciate how little of what I own is truly a necessity.